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Uhlelo oluyimizuzu eyisihlanu lapho sikulethela khona izeluleko ezisebenzisekayo ngabakwa - Focus on the Family
Umkhwenyana akafuni ukuyosebenza
Kukhona kodwa engingakwenza ngendoda enqaba ukuthola umsebenzi ? Sineminyaka ewu 12 sishadile ,kwewu 10 yonke ubezihlalele ekhaya engenzi lutho lonke usuku ngesikhathi mina ngisemsebenzini .Akafaki lutho ekhaya nasemndenini wethu .Kuye akuthi shu .Enye yezingane zethu yatholakala nesifo okubizayo ukuselapha manje umsebezni wami wodwa angeke ukwazi ukubhekana nalezondleko.Nanxa kunjalo ufuna ukuqhubeka…
Ukubuka ezezimali kwabasanda kushada
Ningangisiza nomkhwenyana wami sihlele izimpokophelo zempilo ngokwezimali ezihambisana nathi sindawonye? Akukudala sishadile,umkhwenyana wami useqalile ukukhuluma ngokuthenga umuzi nokusungula isikhwama somhlalaphansi.Kanti mina ngisakhathazwe nje uku- renta nokudla .Kuyaphatheka akushoyo ? Ngakube ngizikhathaza ngobala? Ikhona yini indlela yokubhalansisa lokhubuka kwethu ?
Ukukhuthaza Ingxoxo niwumndeni
Kusemqoka kanganani ukuhlale kuhlale umndeni ube nethuba lokuxoxa? Emshadweni wethu ukuxoxa sekube yingwadla eside isikhathi,kodwa mumva nje sengiqaphele ukuthi lenkinga isithungele nasezinganeni: kubukeka akasekho layikhaya onesikhathi sokuxoxa nomunye.Angazi lokhu kwenzeke kanjani ,futhi ngiyamangala ngokukushoyo ngempilo yomndeni kwezobudlelwane.Kodwa ngingenze njani ukucima lomhlolo?
Unkosikazi unongakuqondi ngezocansi ngomkhwenyana wakhe
Ngingamenza kanjani umkhwenyana wami aqonde ukuthi angiyena umuntu ofuna ukuba senkonzweni njalo njengaye? Uma ngimtshela angikho semoyeni wenkonzo ,uvese acasuke athi ,ziningi kabi izinto naye angenzela zona noma engekho semoyeni ngalesosikhathi -njengokuya emsebenzini,ukusiza emsebenzini wasekhaya ,nokuwasha izitsha.Ngizamile ukumtshela ,akuyona into efanayo leyo ,kunalokho akangikholwa futhi akangilaleli .Kukhona okungalungile kimi?
Ingane ephindaphinda amagama ahlabayo ashiwo nguwakwakho
Ngiphendule kanjani uma izingane zami zithi obenguwakwami kade enza izinkulumo ezibucayi nezinonya ngami? Ibuphi ubuhlukani ukubhekana naloludaba?
Abazali abesaba kunokwenzeka ingane yabo iyisisulu sokuxhashazwa kwezokuxhumana
Ngingazi kanjani ngokungangabazisi ukuthi ingane yami iyinhlwa yenhlekisa kwimiqhafazo kumbe amahebezi amabi kwi social media? Zikhona yini izimpawu ? Uma kuwukuthi ngempela ingane yami yenziwa umantindane kwezokuxhumana ,ngingayisiza ngani mina?
Ukusungula Izindlela ezihlabela phambili zokuxhumana nezingane
Singabafundisa kanjani abantwana bethu ubuciko bokulalela? Babukeka behluleka ukulandela ulayelo .Odabeni lwendodakazi yami ngicabanga iyaziba izikhathi eziningi.Okukandodana wami khona ,ubukeka eziqinisa ezakhe izindlebe bese abe matasa nomabonakude,izincwadi nama video game,noma yini enye ayenzayo okwenza engasuseki kuyo.Ngizithola sengide ngiphinda phinda into eyodwa.Zikhona iziluleko eningangipha zona?
Umkhwenyana ohlulwa ukuthethela unkosikazi
Ngingadlula kanjani ebucayini bomkami enza ngabo, futhi ngikhohlwe okuningi okuhlasimulisayo akusho kimi phambilini ? emva kweminyaka sisemshadweni,sengifike lakhona ngingesenakukuthwala.Angikholelwa kwisahlukaniso ,yikho sesiphila impilo eqhelelene sibe sindlwinye ,naye uzilalela kwelakhe ikamero.Manje ufuna ngimthethelele ukuze sihlabele phambili nomshado wethu ,kodwa ngokwami akukho kalula kanjalo nje .Amagama akhe ahlabayo asenkenketha emicabangweni yami ,futhi…
Umama nobaba baphikisana ngokuqondisa izigwegwe enganeni
Singafika kanjani ekuvumelaneni nonkosikazi wami mayelana nokuqondisa izingane? Ngizamile ukufundisa indodana yami uqondiso oluqinile,kodwa unkosikazi wami uhlale ephikisana nezindlela zami. Uthi nginesandla esiqinile kumfana.Njengoba ungazicabangela,lokho kungaba yisilonda emshadweni wethu.Ngingafeza kanjani engikholwa kuyiqhaza lami njengobaba emshadweni wethu ngibe futhi ngiqhubeka nokwazisa umkami nezimvo zakhe?
Ukuqhubekela phambili emva kokushonelwa ngothandiweyo
Ngingenzenjani ukunqoba usizi olungengamile emva kokufa komnyeni wami ? Walwa nokugula eminyakeni yokugula kwakhe emibili.Ngenxa yalokho impilo yami yonke yabe isingukunakekela yena . Manje lowomzabalazo usudlule , ngizizwa ngiyigobolonde nosizi. Angazi ngijikele kuphi kumbe ngenzeni elandelayo .Ningangisiza?
Uwakwakho onamathele kweqe kubazali nongqubuzano kubazali abavese batheleke bengashilo
Ngingenza kanjani ukukhombisa umnyeni wami ukuthi uhambisa phambili izidingo zabazali bakhe kunezami?Emva kweminyaka sashada ,kodwa ukunamathela kwakhe kubaba nomama wakhe buqine kweqe futhi budala umonakalo ebudlelwaneni bethu.Ngimtshelile ngalokhu kodwa yena akaboni nkinga.”
Ukubuka ukugembula ngokwebhayibheli
Ngakube ngempela ibhayibheli lithi kubi ukugembula? Ngiyabona ukuthi nakho kunjengoku dansa nokudlala amakhadi –amakholwa aqinisa kakhulu, amelene nakho.nokho angikholwa kunezisekelo zezwi azisebenzisa ukumelana nakho mina engikubuka kuwumdlalo nje ongenabungozi.
Imikhakha yezemfundo ethatheka njengengeyona eyabesifazane
Uma kuwukuthi kusemqoka ukuhlukanisa umehluko ngokobulili-engikukholwayo kunjalo-singayikhuthaza yini indodakazi yethu esesikoleni ,ekucabangeni ukukhetha umkhakha othathwa njengowabesilisa ngokwenjwayelo? Le ntombazane yethu ihlale ikhuluma ngokuba umcimimlilo mayesikhulile.Kweminye imiphakathi ezikhululekele ngeke ibe nenkinga nalokho kodwa kithi esingamaKholwa omthetho kakhulu kwenza ngide ngizibuza: engabe impokophelo yaloluhlobo iyahambisana yini nowesifazane ngokwasebhayibhelini? Ngizame yini ukuthatha amehlo…
Ibhayibheli nocansi phambi komshado kunye nokuziphatha ngokozwecansi
Yikuphi ngempela la khona ibhayibheli lithi kuyicala ukulala ngaphandle komshado? Abazali bami bahlala bengiyala njalo ngokuthi izwi lisiyalela singayi ocansini phambi komshado.Manje ngoba sengikhulile sengikwazi ukuzicabangela ,sengiqala ukuyingabaza leyonto.Angikakaqondani nento ebhayibhelini evumelana nalombono wabo.Okwedlulele ukuthi angikatholi simo lakhona ibhayibheli likhuluma ngomshado wasesontweni! UIsaka no Rebheka abazange bashade esontweni.Bazihlanganela bazilalela kwaphela…
Ukuzibuza ngonakekelo lukaNkulunkulu
Singathembela kuNKULUNKULU ezidingweni eziphathekayo kubantwana bakhe abathembekile? kwabaseFiliphu 4:19 kubukeka ethembisa kanjalo .Selokhu ngalahlekelwa ngumsebenzi nganamathela kulelivesi,kodwa alibukeki lingisize ngantoni nomndeni wami. Ezinyangeni ezimbalwa ezedlule silahlekelwe umuzi wethu,imoto nezinto eziningi .Kube nzima kakhulu lokhu kodwa okweqile imibuzo okunginike yona engqondweni.Ngibonile ukuthi amaKhrestu amaningi athembekile endulo aphila nanxa izidingo zawo zingafezekile.Anqubuzana…
Iyiphi indlela yokubhekana nomama osebenzayo ozizwa enecala
Ngingazimisa kanjani ekuzizweni nginecala futhi ngimelane nesilingo sokuba ‘umama ozibambe zonke’ ? Ngingumama osebenzayo onengane ese crèche nezinye esezisesikoleni ezidinga ukunakwa ngemisebenzi eminingi yesikole.Kumele ngivume ukuthi ngizizwa kabi uma ngingenzi into ewukuya phambili.Inhlelo zomndeni ziningi ,futhi kuningi okudinga ukwenziwa ,yikho ngizibona ngiphoqelekile ukusebenza –kwesinye isikhathi okubandakanya ukwenza izinto eziningi sikhathi…
Uwakwakho Uthola Izithombe Ezimhuha Ngocansi
Ngibhekane kanjani nesimo lakhona uwakwami ethola imiyalezo ehuhanayo nengalungile kw- social media? Ngizithele kulokho ekhasini lakhe ,kusukela lapho ngikhathazekile.Ngenzenjani ngalesisimo?
Ukukhuleka Ndawonye Njengomnden
Singawenza kanjani umthandazo womndeni ube seqhulwini ? Siwumndeni okholwayo ,mina nowakwami sishisekela ukukhulisa izingane zethu ngezindlela zeNkosi.Ningasipha izinkombandlela ezingasisiza kulengxenye yempilo? Izingane zethu zisencane okwenza kube nzima ukubabandakanya emthandazweni . Nicabanga siqhubeke sizame? Kumbe silinde baze bakhule?
Igunya Lobuzali Enganeni Esikhulile
Manje njengoba indodana yethu isangaphezu kuka 18 ,iqhubeke isithobele? Ibhayibheli lithi izingane ‘azilalele’ futhi ‘zithobele ‘ abazali bazo (kwabase Fesu 6:1 , KwaBase Kolose 3:20 ) ,kodwa yena uthi ngoba usemdala lomyalelo awusaqondile kuyena.Nizwa kanjani lendaba? Kukusiphi isigaba lakhona ingane esikhulile esuke isizimele khona ngokuphelele ingasaludingi ulawulo lwabazali?
Izidakamizwa nokuzibulala kwentsha
Bukuphi ubudlelwane phakathi kwezidakamizwa ,wuphuzo nokuzibulala kwentsha ? Yikuphi okumele sikwenze uma sisola ukuthi ingane yethu ikwinkinga -yokunye kwalokhu kuziphatha?