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Unwanted sexual thoughts with Aoife Drury - S1E9

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Ever wondered if you’re the only one who gets those unwanted, strange thoughts that come into your head unexpectedly… You know the one’s I’m talking about. Crashing your car? Imagining everyone naked? What about something as upsetting as having sexual thoughts about to children? In this weeks episode, psychosexual and relationship therapist Aoife Drury and I delve into a topic that is definitely not spoken about enough. We explore how these thoughts are always unwanted and cause someone immense distress, and what the difference is between the random intrusive thoughts we all get everyday, and the immense distress that thoughts like this can cause and what behaviour they can result in.

Aoife is a Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist and is currently carrying out a Doctorate in Psychotherapy. With a BSc and Msc in psychiatry Aoife has always had an interest in intrusive thoughts, with a particular focus on the shame associated with sexual ones. Aoife runs her practice online seeing both couples and individuals. You can find her amazing work on Instagram at @drurytherapy.
26 Nov 2020 English South Africa Sexuality · Relationships

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